Once upon a time there was a poor Chinese farmer who had only a son a horse and a small piece of land. One day, the horse escaped into the hills. The farmer’s neighbors came to visit because they felt sorry for him: he lost his only horse! ‘What bad luck!’ They said.
The farmer replied, ‘Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?’ A week later the farmer’s horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills. This time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. Now he had a whole herd of horses: he was rich! But he replied, ‘Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?’
Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this was bad luck. His only son was injured! Not the farmer, who said, ‘Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?’
A few weeks later the army marched in to recruit all the young men to fight a war. Since the farmer’s son had a broken leg, the army let him go.
‘Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?’
Trust the process of life
Guilty as charged, I can overthink things and question my own decision making. Did I make the right choice? Should have I done x instead of y?
I know I’m not the only one out there to have an inner voice that constantly narrates my life and encourages me to second guess everything that I do. However, a little trick that I’ve picked up that helps me to not go completely insane, is to tell myself that ‘I trust the process of life.’
This little saying has helped me in more ways than one. It helps me let go of the things I don’t have control over, think differently about the things that I do, and always feel safe in the flow of ever-changing life (credit: Louise Hay). And when I really need to shut my inner voice up, I pair ‘I trust the process of life’ with ‘I trust the process of life, and I make all the right decisions for myself at the time. I am always doing my best with what I have.’
Can we create our own luck?
It’s hard to recall a time that I did believe in luck. When people wish me good luck, quite often under my breath I’ll say to myself ‘I don’t need luck, I make my own.’ For things like exams or netball finals, I don’t think the results comes down to luck. I’ve studied hard for this exam and I’ll get the mark I deserve. There’s no luck involved. When the shoe is on the other foot, I prefer to say ‘ I wish you the best’ or ‘I wish you well’ as opposed to ‘I wish you luck.’ Or instead of being ‘lucky’ you could just be blessed!
My gorgeous girlfriend recently told me how ‘lucky’ she was to have such a loving and supportive husband. But I truly believe it is not luck that bought her and her husband together. They both deserve wonderful, loving relationships and they were attracted to each other. There was no luck involved.
I think it’s more empowering to believe that we can create our own luck and essentially, our own reality. It seems like we don’t have control over the things that happen to us if we put everything down to luck. However, in saying that, life happens. Bad things happen to good people without any explanation; good luck, bad luck or anything else in between. I think it’s about finding the balance between working relentlessly towards a goal and making things happen, to letting things happen and allowing life and opportunities to naturally unfold. We don’t always have to have the answer, and why should we? That’s what makes life so exciting and interesting. Who know what will happen?! Good luck, bad luck, who knows?