If you haven’t already heard the well known saying ‘show me your closest friends and I will predict your future,’ then it’s now time to think about what this means.
Whether you are aware of it or not, the people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on who you are and what you see as important. And the great thing is, we get to chose who we associate with.
I love to say that happiness is contagious, because I truly believe it. When you’re around positive people who are happy, smiling and laughing, how do you usually feel? And when you’re around someone who always points out the negative or has a negative comment to add to most things, that can rub off on you, too. So it’s important to chose wisely when it comes to people you hang out with.
Happiness is an inside job
What I mean by this is, yes you can surround yourself with people that make you feel good, but at the end of the day it is up to you to make yourself happy. Same goes for everyone, including your friend who is suffering.
You can’t climb into your friend’s head and change their thinking, or throw out the thoughts that aren’t helpful. That my friend, is completely up to them.
The point I would love to get across in this post is, you cannot change your friends way of thinking or make them happy. But what you can be, is a type of happiness disease that you can only hope your friend eventually catches.
You can be the most positive person in the world, or build the other person up with kind words all day long. But at the end of the day, it is up to them to take it on board.
When you notice a friend needs help
If you notice a friend of yours needs help, well done. For you to be that aware of others is an amazing quality to have, and something I would want in anyone I called a friend.
Some people ask for help when they need it, others like to avoid talking about it altogether. When I say people ask for help, this can be shown in so many different ways.
A lot of people don’t have the skills yet to ask for help in appropriate or safe ways.
Asking for help can be sending sad and negative messages, it could be picking fights at school or hurting themselves. These are what I like to call unresourceful ways of asking for help. But nonetheless, they are ways of asking for it.
When you recognise this in a friend or someone else, it’s important to let someone know. Whether that’s a parent or a teacher. No one can help if no one knows about it, and knowledge is power. If you know something that isn’t right, you have the power to reach out and help that person, and that starts with letting someone else know who can help.
Once you have passed on that information, you can feel good about yourself for doing something proactive about it. But it is important to know, you can be a support person, you can let the person know you are there for them and build them up with your kind words, but what that person does with this is up to them.
I’d like to write about some more specific ways to help out a friend. I will write about some proactive strategies soon!
Do you feel like telling someone else who can help is a good way to help out a friend?
Have you ever been around someone who is out of this world, crazy positive? How did it make you feel?
Has there ever been a time for you when you really wanted someone to do something, or feel a certain way but couldn’t change their mind?